Safety Planning & Coping Strategies for Victims & Survivors of Domestic Violence
Create a Safety Plan for a Friend or Family
Build Check-Ins Into Your Routine
Routines can help maintain normalcy. Make sure to include contact with people you care about! This could be texts, calls, or face timing, but keeping it consistent helps to be able to notice changes and a need for help, as well as opportunities to just share how we’re doing.
Create Safety Plans Together So You Know How to Help
What steps should you take, and when? How will they communicate needing you to act? What would be helpful vs invasive or dangerous? Your ideas may seem great to you, but unintentionally put someone at risk. Listen to your friend!
Drop off essential items, food, or gifts
If someone is being isolated or is afraid to leave home, they may not be able to get out to buy what they need, or have access to self care tools.
Make Future Plans
Sometimes it can be hard to have hope or think about the future when we’re going through something traumatic and scary. Try to think of things to do together once the period of quarantining is over that you can look forward to, and work on planning in the meantime.
Find Your Own Supports
It can feel scary and hopeless to know someone is in a bad situation that you can’t fix. It’s important for you to have your own supports in place so you don’t become too overwhelmed, or take the stress on yourself. That doesn’t help anyone, and can actually make you less of an effective support for that person.
Ways to Talk Safely With an Advocate
Go For a Drive
If you have access to a car, take a drive and park in a place where you can call an advocate. This place can be the parking lot of a grocery store. You can also call an advocate while driving to and back from the store.
Go for a Walk
Go for a walk. This can look like taking dogs or kids out for a walk if you can still talk privately.
If going for a walk is not a possibility step outside on your deck or patio. You can say that you are calling to check-in on a friend or family member.
Try Calling at Night
Are you able to call at night time? We are available 24/7 to answer your calls
Many of the suggestions above require the use of a phone. It might be helpful to place the phone in coat pocket before leaving to make the call so that your partner will not see you take it with you. Also consider buying a burner phone for the specific use of calling the hotline. Make sure ringer is on silent unless you are expecting a call from an advocate.
You can email us if that is a safe option for you. While confidentiality may be at risk, if this is the best option for you to contact an advocate.
Do not be afraid to contact us virtually. Try using Facebook Messenger. You may not receive an immediate response but we can help to navigate ways that can be more meaningful. Make sure that you can delete your messages.
If connecting one-on-one is not a safe option consider checking out our social media. We are and will be posting videos on coping strategies and affirmations to our Facebook and Instagram pages. Please utilize those resources until you able call and talk with an advocate.
Information on PPOs
How the Faith Community Can Support Domestic Violence Victims
- Participants will report being able better understand how domestic violence in impacting victims and survivors during the current pandemic
- Participants will have an increased knowledge of how to support victims and survivors
- Participants will have an increased knowledge of how to safety plan with victims/survivors
- Participants will better understand current resources in the community and referral practices during the pandemic
Domestic Violence Community Coordinated Response Team (DVCCRT) Facilitated Discussion: Community-Wide Response to Domestic Violence during COVID-19
Virtual Story Times
All of the books used for Virtual Story Time are a part of the Gender Equity Reading Initiative.
Content coming soon!
Follow the Grand Rapids Children’s Museum as they post daily activities for children to do at home.
Follow NSRC a youth based running club in Garfield Park on Facebook as they post daily challenges related to running, healthy choices and team building.
Follow the GRPM as they post fun activities and local history lessons on their website, Facebook and Instagram.
Follow Tinkergarten on their Facebook as they post fun activities and livestreams that encourage little ones to go out and play in nature. Each lessons also includes a useful list of materials you will need.