What is Domestic Abuse?
Domestic abuse is a pattern of controlling behaviors that may include physical assaults, sexual assaults, emotional abuse, isolation, threats, stalking, manipulation, and/or intimidation. These behaviors are used by one person in an intimate relationship to control the other. The partners may be married, engaged, separated, or dating; heterosexual or gay; living together or not.
Abuse can happen to anyone regardless of someone’s religion (or lack of), gender identity or expression, age, race or nationality, cultural background, class, ability, and/or education.
1 in 3
women
1 in 4
men
in the United States have experienced rape, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner in their lifetime (2010 National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey, Centers for Disease Control and Prevention).
1 in 4
women
1 in 7
men
Examples of Abusive Behavior
Signs of Abuse
- Unusually quiet or hesitant or unusually cheery behavior
- Withdraws from activities and/or distances themself
- Acts very guarded while talking on the telephone
- Asks permission from partner to do ordinary things
- Claims to be “accident-prone”
- Makes comments about partner’s “moodiness,” “short fuse,” or “temper”
- Glances quickly at partner before responding to a question or statement from others
- Tries to smooth things over and works harder than seems necessary to avoid upsetting partner
- Looks often at watch or cell phone when away from home
- Frequent vague physical symptoms and sicknesses
If you notice someone exhibiting these characteristics, don’t be afraid to privately ask if the person feels safe at home. If the person tells you they do not, encourage them to seek support from an organization such as Safe Haven. Our advocates are also available to speak with a supportive person in a victim/survivor’s life.
